I really should be writing role-plays right now. We're going to be doing some tomorrow in my cpe group. Our group is not processing as our supervisor would like us to. We're not "naming" things that are going in our group. We're just too polite...too non-confrontational...too willing to not take the first step... We're not willing to step into primary leadership in creating this.
I opened my mouth... When Jim (supervisor) said that he was at a loss, and Katie talked about the lack of process, I asked about someone writing the role plays and Jim jumped all over it.
Hmmm...
Wednesday, April 27, 2005
AKMA�s Random Thoughts
AKMA�s Random Thoughts
An interesting perspective on wearing clerical garb. Stolen as a link from Mary Hess' Blog.
An interesting perspective on wearing clerical garb. Stolen as a link from Mary Hess' Blog.
Friday, April 22, 2005
Milestone Part 1
I turned 40 on Wednesday. How weird is that?
Not that the number 40 is weird. But I think that the most significant thing is that I have a strong memory of my Father's 40th birthday. I remember being in the Living Room. I remember somebody sent a bouquet of black flowers and a condolance card.
My Dad didn't think it was funny. I wondered what the fuss was all about. I was probably 10 years old.
Will my kids remember my 40th birthday?
This birthday did not make me "down" in any way. It's not like I was suddenly struck in the head with my own mortality.
It does cause one to stop and evaluate:
~ Am I doing what I thought I'd be doing when I would turn 40?
~ Am I doing what God calls me to do?
~ Am I grown up?
I have 25 years left until retirement. How do I want to use that 25 years?
More later.
Not that the number 40 is weird. But I think that the most significant thing is that I have a strong memory of my Father's 40th birthday. I remember being in the Living Room. I remember somebody sent a bouquet of black flowers and a condolance card.
My Dad didn't think it was funny. I wondered what the fuss was all about. I was probably 10 years old.
Will my kids remember my 40th birthday?
This birthday did not make me "down" in any way. It's not like I was suddenly struck in the head with my own mortality.
It does cause one to stop and evaluate:
~ Am I doing what I thought I'd be doing when I would turn 40?
~ Am I doing what God calls me to do?
~ Am I grown up?
I have 25 years left until retirement. How do I want to use that 25 years?
More later.
Tuesday, April 19, 2005
A new Pope
Watching the Papal election process has been fascinating. Even more fascinating is the public reaction to it. People are enthralled. Yesterday I sat in a Boston's Gourmet Pizza for lunch during a meeting and they were having live coverage of the smokestack.
The whole time.
We watched the smokestack.
For an hour.
The comment I continue to hear from people is "I just don't understand the process." It is a mystery, wrapped in an enigma.
I'm thinking that this is why it is so enthralling. Mystery and its value is largely underrated. People seek out things they don't understand if they sense a hidden or deeper meaning.
And so we stare at smokestacks.
Interesting.
The whole time.
We watched the smokestack.
For an hour.
The comment I continue to hear from people is "I just don't understand the process." It is a mystery, wrapped in an enigma.
I'm thinking that this is why it is so enthralling. Mystery and its value is largely underrated. People seek out things they don't understand if they sense a hidden or deeper meaning.
And so we stare at smokestacks.
Interesting.
Monday, April 18, 2005
Sunday, April 17, 2005
Saturday, April 16, 2005
Conflict
There are people who just thrive on conflict. I just see that. A good friend of mine, Hal Weldin talks about the people who can only feel close to others when they are in conflict with them. It is a completely misguided sense of intimacy.
There are others who can only experience power when they do it in conflict with others. Rather than letting their work, or the validity of their arguments make their point and for them to slowly develop their credibility, they jump in people's face. It is hurtful.
There are others who just are mean.
There are those who have a combination of the above.
I am tired of people who sit in the background and throw stones. They don't contribute. They snipe. They criticize. They give zero energy. They tear down, they don't build up. They thrive on divisiveness.
I don't want to give these people any more of my time.
Don't tell me problems. Tell me solutions.
Don't criticize someone else's solutions unless you have one to contribute.
Realize that there may be a multitude of reasons for someone's actions. Don't assume the worst.
Hear others.
There is conflict around an issue in the youth and family ministry world in our denomination that I am tired of hearing about. Those being critical a) have no power to change it. b) are misguided in their reasoning. c) are assuming the worst.
I don't want to give it any more of my time.
Excuse the ranting-nature of this post. It is becoming tiring.
There are others who can only experience power when they do it in conflict with others. Rather than letting their work, or the validity of their arguments make their point and for them to slowly develop their credibility, they jump in people's face. It is hurtful.
There are others who just are mean.
There are those who have a combination of the above.
I am tired of people who sit in the background and throw stones. They don't contribute. They snipe. They criticize. They give zero energy. They tear down, they don't build up. They thrive on divisiveness.
I don't want to give these people any more of my time.
Don't tell me problems. Tell me solutions.
Don't criticize someone else's solutions unless you have one to contribute.
Realize that there may be a multitude of reasons for someone's actions. Don't assume the worst.
Hear others.
There is conflict around an issue in the youth and family ministry world in our denomination that I am tired of hearing about. Those being critical a) have no power to change it. b) are misguided in their reasoning. c) are assuming the worst.
I don't want to give it any more of my time.
Excuse the ranting-nature of this post. It is becoming tiring.
Thursday, April 14, 2005
Time to Write
I haven't had much time to write lately. That's probably apparent from the 16 day gap in my blogs. That's sometimes how I operate. I'm all over something for a short time and then I lose steam...my life is full of many 50% to 75% completed projects.
I'm not sure I can fix that. Maybe it's just enough to name it.
I'm not sure I can fix that. Maybe it's just enough to name it.
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